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  • HOW TO HANDLE DISAPPOINTMENTS 1. Know that not everyone thinks or acts the way you do. Don’t take offense when they don’t do or say as you want them to

    2. Know that you too have the ability to disappoint people. It is a human thing 3. Make plans but have room for adjustments and surprises

    4. Don’t worry too much about things you don’t have control of

    5. Remember sometimes God allows people to disappoint you to teach you a lesson on patience, understanding and even love

    6. Moderate your expectations. Sometimes people will not do as promised or they may not fulfill their promise when and how you want them 7. When a loved one disappoints you, don’t forget the many times he/she was there for you

    8. Learn to communicate your disappointment without passing judgment

    9. Remember part of being a good friend or a good spouse is learning how to handle them when they disappoint you

    10. Remember sometimes people disappoint you because they don’t know any better, or they are having a bad day, teach them

    11. Give people a chance to do better when they disappoint you. Don’t write off people the moment they disappoint you, you too would love people to be patient with your growth

    12. If it’s someone who is your junior, perhaps your child or employee and they disappoint you, don’t expect them to reason like you, mentor them. Stop expecting to find people perfect

    13. In case you have disappointed yourself. Forgive yourself. You are growing too

    14. Remember some doors close and you get disappointed, because they were not your doors, better doors will open

    15. If the disappointment is so huge. Take some time to cry, break down, vent, then get back to living life to the full. Don’t be held hostage

    16. Don’t allow one area of your life that has disappointed you make you destroy all the other areas of your life that are going well

    Good Day

    Jesus Christ Is Coming Sooner Revelation 22:11-12

  • The Toxic Being

    8 Words You Should Never Say to a Narcissist

    There are certain words you should never say to a narcissist. Don’t you want to avoid triggering a temper tantrum, or something worse? I thought so. If you are searching for peace, there are things you should never say to a narcissist. Because if you do say these words, peace is not what you’ll be getting. You may already be aware of the sticky tar that’s the narcissist’s mind. I guess I sound mean, huh? Well, I’ve just been around a few of these individuals, and I know from experience that what you say can and will be used against you.

    Table of Contents Never say THESE things to a narcissist

    1. “You love attention”

    2. “You think you’re always right”

    3. “You always play the victim, don’t you?”

    4. “You are so manipulative”

    5. “You’re lying”

    6. “It’s not about you!”

    7. “It’s not a competition”

    8. “You’re so fake”

    Saying these words won’t fix the narcissist Never say THESE things to a narcissist

    The narcissist has an over-inflated sense of self-worth put together with extremely low self-esteem.

    Yes, I know these contradict each other, but the truth is, high self-worth is just a cover for the truth of the narcissist’s low self-image.

    Keep this in mind as we explore the words you should never say to a narcissist. It will help you understand.

    Here are a few examples of what NOT to say.

    1. “You love attention”

    While this statement is probably true, it’s just not smart to say it. Why? Well, because the narcissist will react either one or two ways. They may go into a narcissistic rage that causes great distress or uproar. They may deny this and seek even more attention from your “perceived insult”.

    This means they will respond by telling others how rough you talk to them. Since most people outside the narcissist’s circle cannot see their manipulation and so forth, this garners even more sympathy/attention.

    2. “You think you’re always right”

    Never say this to a narcissist because they usually do think they are superior. But when you say this, the toxic person will see it for what it is, an affront to their intellect. Usually, the narcissist will become defensive and lash out. You’ll get nowhere with this statement, so you might as well not even say it. It’s a waste of breath.

    3. “You always play the victim, don’t you?”

    Narcissists, in fact, do see themselves as a constant victim. It seems someone is always wronging them in one way or the other. “Oh, poor me” is what this toxic individual continually thinks, and so they will become defensive and hurt when you call them in their perpetual victimhood.

    What’s even worse is that so many people see them as victims too. This is because others cannot see beyond the façade.

    4. “You are so manipulative”

    This is also something you should never say to a narcissist. It’s because their manipulation is so deeply ingrained in who they are that sometimes they cannot even see what they’re doing anymore. And if they do see it in themselves, they just call it intelligence. They often pride themselves on getting everything they want. Sometimes, they may try gaslighting when you call them manipulative, so be careful.

    5. “You’re lying”

    Most of us know that narcissists lie, and they lie much of the time. But calling them on these lies isn’t productive. They may either say, “Whatever…” or get defensive. Sometimes narcissists will use manipulative tactics to deflect your statement back on you. Whatever it takes, this toxic person will not admit they’re lying. It takes loads of effort to get a narcissist to admit to the lies or deception they’ve done. So, in a way, it’s pretty pointless to bring up. Remember, narcissists are like children.

    6. “It’s not about you!”

    This statement will never work. You see, to the narcissist, everything IS about them, or it should be. Every single thing that happens in or near the narcissist is another chance to focus on them and bring the spotlight back on their lives. So, saying, “It’s not about you!” is just not true. It will always be about the narcissist, whether you like it or not.

    7. “It’s not a competition”

    To a narcissist, everything is always a competition. It’s about who grills the best burger, who makes the most money, or who has the most friends. To normal people, it’s about who cares!! This is one of the most obvious words you should never say to a narcissist, as life will always be a competition. To them, if they aren’t first, they are last. There are no in-between, nor ties.

    8. “You’re so fake”

    This is the ultimate diss to the narcissist. Yes, it’s 100% true, but you shouldn’t say it.

    Any toxic person will not admit that they are wearing a mask, and it’s because the real person is practically empty. If they aren’t completely empty, they’re badly broken and in need of professional help.

    So, to tell a narcissist that they’re inauthentic is like attacking the last shred of self-worth they have. Saying these words won’t fix the narcissist Honestly, while you may feel like saying these things, and they may be true, it’s best not to. These statements will not fix the narcissist. In fact, it may make them worse. As they become defensive and angry as a result of your words, their façade will grow stronger. Instead of coming clean about who they really are, they’ll just continue to lie. So, when talking to the narcissist, please keep these tips in mind. And most of all, take care of your mental health. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic friend or family member, and it’s damaging you, reinforce your boundaries and seek help.

  • Foods For Thought

    The Best Advice You Should Not Ignore.

    1. Do not light yourself on fire to brighten up someone else life.

    2. If you are serious about changing your life, you will find a way, but if you are not, you will find an excuse. 3. When angry, isolate yourself, give yourself some time. Then think about the whole situation with a clam mind. 4. When someone tells you to “follow your heart,” remember to listen to your heart but act with your brain in. 5. Don’t let anyone make you cru£l. It is not worth losing yourself because other’s actions.

    6. Don’t let anyone change you. People want to make you someone different but don’t let them since they are the ones who need to change.

    7. Save money. You don’t know when your financial situation can take a turn. So, be prepared.

    8. Look after your health. A bit of self-care won’t take much time.

    9. Do not rush things. Everything has its right time.

    10. Love yourself truly since you are the only one who can.

  • Moral Lesson Of Life

    💐 Short Story of the Day 💐 One night, a snake was searching for food when it entered a carpenter’s untidy workshop. The floor was cluttered with tools, including a saw. As the snake slithered around the workshop, it accidentally slid over the saw, causing a small cut. Believing the saw was attacking it, the snake retaliated and bit it fiercely, causing its mouth to bleed. The snake became enraged and continued attacking the saw until it was covered in blood. The snake eventually died from its self-inflicted wounds, as it wrapped itself around the saw and squeezed with all its might. The moral of this story is that sometimes in our anger, we attack the wrong target, leading to our own self-destruction. It is important to take a moment to assess a situation before acting impulsively. Rushing into action without proper consideration can lead to regrettable outcomes. Sometimes we react with anger not realizing we are only hurting ourselves. In life, sometimes it’s better to ignore situations, ignore people and their behavior. People say and do things but it’s your decision to react in a positive way. Soft answers remove anger, Rough words raise rage. @PrinceBenoniMirrah2⁰/0⁹/2⁰2³

  • WE HAVE ALOT OF LESSONS IN LIFE

    No matter how long it lives, the Greatest Lion will eventually die miserably. That’s the world.

    Tragic and Karmic ! At their peak, they rule, chase other animals, catch, devour, gulp and leave their crumbs for hyenas. But age comes fast.

    The old Lion can’t hunt, can’t kill or defend itself. It roams and roars, gnaws and whimpers, until it runs out of luck. It will be cornered by the hyenas, nibbled at and eaten alive by them.They won’t even let it die before it is dismembered.

    Life is short.

    Power is ephemeral. Physical beauty is short-lived. I have seen it in nature and I have seen it in the Corporate World.

    Everyone who lives long enough will become weak and very vulnerable at some point. Therefore, let us be humble.

    Help the sick, train the weak and support the vulnerable, and most importantly never forget that we will leave the stage one day, and our legacy will only remain.

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